I know that statement is hard to read. It never occurred to me that this would be possible until I met my future husband.
When my husband and I first met we knew there was something special between us. We knew we had an incredible connection right away. There were so many similarities. We fell deeply in love.
But it goes way beyond that! We had more in common than we realized
** My son was taken from me at birth. I searched for my son from the day I got out of the hospital.
** His mother died at birth. He didn’t even know he had a birth mother until he was in his 40’s.
Different, yet something we could share, and so much to learn from both. Read on…
I was shocked that he didn’t know about his birth mother until that age. He shared with me that he always knew that he was different, that he didn’t quite fit in with the family.
He also shared that it wasn’t until his adoptive mother was in medical distress that she told him about his birth mother.
By then it was not something he wanted to pursue. His birth mother was dead, he felt his birth family didn’t care or they would have searched for him.
Now it is too late.
For those birth mothers out there that are looking for their child this is a stark reality of how the truth can be hidden. You may think that ‘of course’ the adoptive parents will tell the child they are adopted. That they will share information that will help them seek you out, as you seek them out.
But as you can see from my husband’s revelation, that is not necessarily the case.
The love of your child is endless. Don’t give up!
Sharing from a birth mother and an adoptive child. We have so much we can give to you!
Jan
