Would Timing Have Made A Difference In My Relationship With My Birthson?
Would it have made a difference if he was older, and I was older, when we met? I didn’t even think that it would until…
I started recording the program Long Lost Family. Here is a quick overview of the show.
From TLC network via Google search:
“Having embarked on their own journeys to discover their biological families, TV personalities Chris Jacobs and Lisa Joyner help others try to track down loved ones. Each episode features two emotional stories of people who have suffered a lifetime of separation and are yearning to be reunited with their birthparents and biological families or find children they had to give up for adoption long ago. In addition to providing emotional support and guidance, Chris and Lisa conduct painstaking searches through public records and utilize current DNA technology in their search for answers. The things they discover and who they find are anything but expected.”
I wasn’t sure if I could emotionally deal with it, but since I had the recordings I decided to watch one to see how I could handle it.
For those of you who are visiting Taken at Birth for the first time, here’s my story in brief…
My son was taken from me at birth. I was 17. I begged my parents to get him back but they would not even talk to me about it. I went to the doctor who delivered my son and asked him to help me get my son back, but he just said he could not treat me anymore and kicked me out of his office.
I was lost. I had no idea how I could get me son back. I never stopped looking. Many years later I met my birth son when he was 21. I was so happy to meet him. I don’t think he was so happy to meet me. He didn’t believe that I didn’t give me away, that it was out of my hands…
So, during the latest episode I watched of Long lost family I heard Chris Jacobs say that he connected with his birth mother at a young age.
He went on to say that he felt if he had met her later in life he felt it would have been more profound.
It made me think that my birth son meeting me when he was so young maybe it didn’t mean much. He was so angry at me for giving him away. Even when I told him that was not how it happened, that I did not give him away, he was taken, he was still so angry.
So you see he has closed off from me for years, off and on. He is closed off from me now.
What if he met me when he was 41 instead if 21. Would it had made a difference?
Maybe it would. Maybe being older when he met me would make a difference as it did with:
Chris Jacobs say that “he connected with his birth mother at a young age”. He went on to say that he felt “if he had met her later in life he felt it would have been more profound.”
I miss the connection with my birth son. It hurts that he has pulled away from me again.
Maybe if we met later in life.…
