Mother’s Day has always been like a funeral to me. I am a Mother without my child.
Every day is hard, but Mother’s Day is especially hard, much more so when my son was taken away from me, and the many years I spent trying to find him. Even after finding him, and connecting, it felt the same for many years because of lack of contact from him.
When you are looking for your birth child every day is a loss. Mother’s Day is harder because you ARE a Mother, you just don’t have your child. For those of you who are sill looking my heart goes out to you.
If you are lucky enough to find you birth child you likely you won’t have much of a Mother’s Day unless you are blessed to be in the same city and your child wants contact with you. Most will not hear from their birth child on Mother’s Day — because — you are only the birth Mother. You are not their ‘real’ (adoptive) Mother.
So for all the Birth Mother’s out there I want to wish you the best Mother’s Day. Please give yourself a hug as a Mum, if no one else can, and please try to pamper yourself. I understand the feeling of loss on Mother’s Day and my heart goes out to all of us.
Jan
