I know there is not a birth mother out there that doesn’t think of their birth child.
I am sure there is not one birth mother out there that doesn’t wonder if their birth child ever thinks of them as well.
But if your child was taken away at birth how can they even know to think of you?
It’s a good question.
But in fact the birth child feels a loss, the sound of the voice they don’t hear, the heartbeat they don’t recognize.
A birth child may not know what loss they feel. A birth child may not understand what they are longing for. They may not know who they are thinking of, but they do know it is something deep inside of them. Something they cannot express, yet it is something they cannot ignore.
Yes your birth child can think of you.
They won’t know ‘who’ you are, but they do know that there is someone, someone that they long for.
Will my birth child reach out to me?
That is hard to answer. From my own experience my birth child was very angry at me for giving him up. Even though that was not my choice, and as much as I explained to him what happened, he was still very angry. I found him. He told me he never would have searched for me.
So yes, your birth child may be very angry.
No matter what the circumstances, no matter what happened that you lost them, no matter how much you proclaim your love, they still may step away from you, for a short period of time, or forever,
Keep in mind your birth child is part of you, always will be.
Even if your birth child turns their back on you it is important to keep in your mind, and in your heart, that they are still a part of you. They may not want to acknowledge that, they may deny that, but they are, not matter what, a part of you.
Your birth child may never admit they ever think about you. They may even turn their back on you and never say a word to you. But, a birth mother, and a birth child, are not just genetics, we are together the instant our child is conceived, we are together the days/weeks/months as our birth child grows in us. We are together as we talk to them in vitro, sing to them in vitro, tell them we love them in vitro.
So does your birth child think of you?
Statistics say if you had a girl the chances are they do and they will search for you. If you had a boy, chances are they are more likely they will be angry at you and will never search for you.
Even if they don’t think of you or don’t search for you, never give up your search, or your love for them. Your birth child IS your child.
