This time of year is very difficult. If you have not found your birth child you wonder if ‘they’ are happy, if ‘they are loved, if ‘they’ will have a good Christmas. Not knowing hurts. If you have found your birth child, you wish that you could be part of their joy, you wish you… [Read More]
Ready Or Not — Labour Begins
I woke up on the morning of April 14th and when I got out of bed there was a gush. I thought to myself “I can’t even make it to the bathroom anymore”, but I felt different. I went and told my Mum and she said “the baby is getting ready to be born. The contractions… [Read More]
Giving Birth — My Near Death Experience
As I write this I can honestly say that I don’t remember much between the epidural and the delivery room. Let me tell you what I do remember. Probably once I write this I will remember more in my dreams. After I received the epidural I was told the contractions would ease and the swelling… [Read More]
Why Was My Birthson Taken
I received a comment on Facebook asking “Why was he taken” Good question. I actually did a post asking ‘Why’, which goes into the ‘Why’ differently. View it Here. I do have theories. Here are some of them. 1. I Was Under Age. Perhaps my parents felt I could not take care of a baby on my… [Read More]
Why The Love For My Mother Turned To Hate
After leaving the doctor’s office (see my last post) , and going back to my parents to pack up my belongings leaving for good, I went and stayed with a friend. I did not tell them where I was going. I did not want any contact from them. In many ways this was very hard on me.… [Read More]
The Doctor’s Role In My Son Given Up For Adoption Without Consent
Maybe the Doctor Can Help Me During my dreams last night I realized how important it is to explain what happened with the doctor. Not just to tell you my story, but also, just maybe, something I say will trigger a memory for you if I explain. A few weeks after Jamie was born I went… [Read More]
A Birth Child Feels The Same Loss As The Birth Mother
I thought when my birth child, my son, was taken from me, I was the only one who felt the loss. I have come to understand that we suffered the same loss. When he was taken away from me shortly after birth I felt this emptiness. Like my heart and soul had been taken away. I longed… [Read More]
Did You Know Your Child’s Birth Information Can Be Changed?
I have been thinking a lot about my search for my birth son and some of the many obstacles I ran into. Here is one I want to share with you. When I first started looking for my birth son there were a limited number of books that you could find to give you ideas on how… [Read More]
The Loss Of A Birth Child Knows No Time Limit
I read an article the other day in our local paper. It was about a 15 year old girl who was forced to give up her baby at birth in 1982. No, this is not news for those of you who read my blog. There are a lot of us out there who had this happen… [Read More]
Adoptive Parents Threaten a Restraining Order
Sorry for the strong heading but this actually did happen. When the doctor who delivered my birth son finally came clean about his involvement with the ‘abduction’ of my birth son when he was born he said he would talk to my birth son about wanting contact. This is back when he was 21 years old.… [Read More]