Sorry for the strong heading but this actually did happen.
When the doctor who delivered my birth son finally came clean about his involvement with the ‘abduction’ of my birth son when he was born he said he would talk to my birth son about wanting contact.
This is back when he was 21 years old.
The doctor first went to the adoptive parents and told them that I was looking for my birth son and that he was going to help me. The doctor told me that the adoptive parents wanted to put a restraining order on me so I could have no contact with my birth son — so I would not “abduct” my birth son.
I could not believe this because my child was of legal age. How on earth could I ‘abduct’ him?
Why am I telling you this? Well I want you to know that when you search for your birth child you will run into all sorts of obstacles.
There may be a fear from the adoptive parents you taking away the love of their child. Of course this will not happen. They are the parents — you just gave birth to the child. That is a fact. Of course emotionally it is different for the birth Mum.
As far as putting a restraining order on you, if the child is legal age they cannot do that. But trying to talk to your birth child about the issue may help to ease everyone’s fear.
There are emotional issues with everyone involved when there is first contact without a doubt.
For the birth mother, like me, having a threat of a restraining order was just another nail in my heart.
