At one point during dinner Jamie left the table and his girlfriend told me it was going really and the he was happy. She said he figured that he would just come and meet me and then leave — say an hour at most. He had even made plans to go out with his friend… [Read More]
Sharing With My Birth Son — Our First Meeting
A bit of background… before I flew in to meet my birth son I went through all sorts of photos I had of family members. I wanted to show him pictures of his family, his birth family. I wanted him to be able to see himself in not only me but the family pictures I had.… [Read More]
Meeting My Birth Son — I Am Alive Again!
When I lost Jamie I thought I would die. In truth I wanted to, and when I think back on everything that happened, after he was taken from me, I am surprised I didn’t. When I met him, on August 23, 1992, I was given my life back. I was alive again because I finally —… [Read More]
Mother’s Day As A Birth Mother
Mother’s Day has always been like a funeral to me. I am a Mother without my child. Every day is hard, but Mother’s Day is especially hard, much more so when my son was taken away from me, and the many years I spent trying to find him. Even after finding him, and connecting, it felt the… [Read More]
My Birth Son’s Birthday — It Is Bitter Sweet
April 15th is my birth son’s birthday. The 15th of April has always been a very important day to me. I knew, long before he was born, that he would be born on this date. I don’t know why or how, I just knew. Let’s talk about the ‘bitter’ part first: It’s very difficult for a birth… [Read More]
A Quiet Tear
There are many times in my daily routine that I find myself faced with something that brings up the loss of my child. This can happen when I read an email, watch a TV program, read an article in the paper, read a post in Facebook, or wake from a dream. When it happens it can take my breath… [Read More]
Adoptive Parents Threaten a Restraining Order
Sorry for the strong heading but this actually did happen. When the doctor who delivered my birth son finally came clean about his involvement with the ‘abduction’ of my birth son when he was born he said he would talk to my birth son about wanting contact. This is back when he was 21 years old.… [Read More]
My Birthson Doesn’t Remember Spending a Weekend Together When We First Met
I was talking to my birth son about the weekend we spent together when we first met and he said he has no memory of it. This statement really threw me. This time was so important to me I could never forget one minute. So… Does that mean it was just too emotional for him? Does that… [Read More]
The Ups & Heartbreaks of Social Networking
Social networking allows you to connect at a distance. That is a wonderful thing. My birth son does has a profile on Facebook, sort of. There is no pic and he really hasn’t posted anything. My birth son’s girlfriend is very active on Facebook. We are friends and we comment back and forth every now… [Read More]
What To Do When Searching For A Birth Child
As you know, if you have read my previous entries, my son was taking away from me at his birth. I had a good idea who was involved but that did not help me — they did not help me. I searched for help, anything that might help me find him. Way back then there was really… [Read More]