Dealing With The Loss Of A Child
A mother losing her child is something that no one can understand unless they have gone through the experience, I know this personally. The loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, or in my case, given up for adoption without my consent, breaks the bond and the soul.
The loss of a child is enormous. It is something that, as much as you try, you will never really get over. The grief of losing a child is like losing a part of you, a piece of your heart, a piece of your soul.
I wanted to try and help. Try and give back what so many women have lost and may not be able to talk about, may not be able to share with anyone, may still be struggling with a day after, or many years later.
This Is My Story Of Finding My Birth Son, Jamie.
I started “Taken At Birth” to tell my story of how my son was taken away from me at birth. I didn’t know he was going to be given away.
When I went into labor my Mother was there for me. When I went through labor I had problems, so much so that my doctor had to ask me if I would want to live or my baby. I told him my baby. When my Mother asked me I told her the same thing. My child would survive even if I did not.
It was a long, and complicated labor, and delivery. At the end I remember the doctor and nurses coaching me on, trying to keep me going. I remember seeing myself on the delivery table, so many doctors and nurses around, so many people cheering me on. I knew I was dying, I also knew I didn’t want to go, I wanted to be there for my son.
Then he was born. I remember cheers. I remember asking if he was okay. I remember them taking him out of the room, never allowing me to even hold him.
When I gave birth, to my knowledge he would come back with me to my parent’s home. They told me he and I would be welcomed.
I was wrong.
24 hours after I gave birth he was given away. Here I was in the hospital, hearing babies crying, wanting to see my child only to be told he was gone. I could not believe what I was hearing.
He was given for adoption, without my knowledge, or consent, because I was under legal age.
This my story, my journey to find him. You can read more about me, and my story, here:
I Want To Help Other Birth Mothers On Their Journey Too!
The day I left the hospital, without my son, is the day I started my search for my birth son. A long and difficult journey.
I also started this site to help women who have had their child taken at birth, given up for adoption. I hope I can help you with my story. I hope I can help you with information I provide.
Losing a child breaks you.
The loss leaves a hole in our hearts that will never be filled.
In the days, weeks, and years after my baby was given away I did all I could to find my birth child. I struggled to cope. Those of you who went through the same thing may have survived this devastating loss, some did not.
I have created this site is to help others in their search and their recovery.
My goal is to write a book on my own experience and the journey to find my son, Jamie, who was taken away and given to someone else for adoption at birth.
I also hope to help others who have gone through this terrible loss or are still in the midst of it
I am one of the lucky ones who found my son. Finding him / meeting him was the best day of my life, the years after have been a struggle, both positive and negative (on the very positive side right now). I hope to help others on this path.
I invite you to share your experiences as I share mine.
I hope it helps you. You can follow my story by clicking on the blog menu or click here. I will be adding resources soon that you will be able to download that will help you along your journey and with all the issues you face when you are looking for a birth child, and when you find them.
Stories From My Actual Journal
I have started the story of meeting my son. Most of the information is taken from my journal, with comments from my memory of that time. I am sharing this with you here:
Join me on my journey — I hope it helps you with yours.
Jamie — I love you with all my heart!!
B-Mum — Jan
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